HOW TO STOMACH DEFEAT

“Defeat is the true mirror in which you may honestly view your real self.” [UB,156:5.17]

Thought Adjuster: “It is not the length of a statement that determines its content in truth. The above quote is filled with gems of wisdom and is well worth pondering. Why is defeat such a powerful revealer of your true nature?

Defeat is humbling and keeps an individual from becoming overconfident. Self-confidence is easy to preserve when everything goes smoothly, and life does not present you with any pockets of resistance.

What happens to your confidence level when life throws unexpected wrenches in the flow of situations? Does it get shattered into a thousand pieces, or is it your ego that gets shaken up?

There is a subtle difference between self-confidence and an overinflated ego. At all times and in any situation, I will whisper in your ear that you are equipped to deal with adversity and to emerge much stronger from the ashes of a perceived reality that needed to be debunked to reveal the lessons it contained. Any defeat can be turned into a personal victory, as it challenges your small self to get in touch with its higher nature.

Defeat removes the blinders from your ego and scrubs it clean. It places you in a position where you must decide how to deal with a setback. Your many life decisions are multiple-choice tests. Will you allow defeat to impact other areas of your life like an unwelcome flash flood, a hostile takeover? Or will you engage your willpower and make the personal decision not to be permanently destabilized by such an occurrence that challenges your character to its core and foster inner strength, resilience, and fortitude in the face of adversity?

Defeat is a true mirror in which you may honestly view your true self, without any concealer. It may rain on your inner parade. Yet it reveals to you the fabric you are made of. Are you a victim of your circumstances, or are you God-victoriously rising above them, seizing them as growth opportunities? Whenever life is hard, it challenges you to change, as you must positively adapt and look for solutions.

Dealing graciously with defeat transmutes it into a personal victory. It allows you to move on with a brand-new determination. Whenever things do not work out as planned, life presents you with corrective courses and brand-new growth opportunities, as you live on an evolutionary world where nothing is static.

If you can maintain an attitude of gratitude when faced with adversity, you will remain undefeated. Instead, you will defeat adversity, nip it in the bud, and prevent it from flooding your being with depression, its sidekick, robbing you of your self-confidence and can-do spirit.

Indeed, defeat may take you through treacherous territories where you have to be resourceful in order not to lose your spiritual footing. ‘What does not kill you makes you stronger.’ It is not a cliché. It is part of your growth process toward your real self.”